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Monday, May 30, 2005

NIVEA "COMPLICATED" CONTEST - LESS THAN 48 HOURS LEFT


What could be more COMPLICATED than MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND? R & B Singer Nivea is sponsoring MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND author Shelia Goss' May contest.
Entering is not COMPLICATED. Send your name, address, and email address to nivea_shelia@yahoo.com and put CONTEST in the header and you will automatically be entered to win one(1) of the six(6) prizes (CD sampler and Nivea personalized manicure set).
Nivea's CD COMPLICATED and Shelia Goss' MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND are on sale at Amazon.com. COMPLICATED will be in stores on May 3rd.
No purchase is necessary to win. All entries must be received by midnight May 31, 2005.
Void where prohibited by law.
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Sunday, May 29, 2005

The Right Man
(PLEASE NOTE THIS IS A CONDENSED VERSION OF A MUCH LONGER PIECE)

First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it's made on an emotional one. "What about love? Shouldn't that be the third?", you ask. No, and I'll tell you why. "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jer. 17:9). The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently--it just loves to love! Therefore, you have to point it in the right directions: "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life" (Prov. 4:23). Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship, and then marriage. Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together. Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively--it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage. But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather facts:



1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family--the family of God? Scripture is clear on this: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Cor. 6:14). You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues. You have had like experiences in your background.

Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together. Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time. Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.



2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends. Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord" (Prov. 18:22). Note--who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time, God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them together. At the RIGHT TIME, He will bring that man on the scene and he will find you. In God's perfect design, the man is the one who recognizes his mate. Adam had no problem recognizing that Eve was his missing rib. You do not need to strategically place yourself anywhere. You don't have to help a guy out because he's shy! Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested. Many a woman's mother has suggested that it is a good idea to marry a man who loves you more than you love him. As cold as that sounds, it actually might be scriptural if you stop to think about it: "We love him because He first loved us" (1 John 4:19). Until then, take the ultimate chill pill. You don't need a bunch of men in your life to make you feel all right about yourself. You need only one man--your man, the one God has selected to select you. And trust me, the right man at the wrong time can be just as awful as the wrong man at any time. So trust God's

timing in this. He is the ultimate matchmaker. Relax, sit pretty and allow yourself to be found. Again,--WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationship. You may have an inkling that he is the one, but God will use the man to set the tone of the relationship. Allow him the opportunity to woo you--this is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.


3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.



4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!



5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.



6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.



7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? broken relationships? problems in making commitments? including the job market? mood swings? Is a problem always someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.



8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person--and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life. A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever. Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ. Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader in his home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.



9. Complementarily. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts complement yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way? This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complementary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong. This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost. Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotionally, or physically? Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in your life should consider you as a rare find, a priceless jewel—because of you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable, or that you have to work for love, is too expensive! God has called the man to cover, protect, and provide not only materially for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.



10. Does he have a healthy love & acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. He cares for himself is how he will care for you. A man's relationship with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ. If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to Christ, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive. So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God Himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man? Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for the hand that they desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having, costs. And no one gets a ride in this life for free.
Author UnKnown - My friend Kem, who's happily married, sent me this.

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Friday, May 27, 2005


You got me going in circles

Relationships are something else...sometimes I feel like I'm on an emotional roller coaster or as the picture above represents, an infinite circle - going round and round. I try to do my best when I'm involved with someone, but sometimes that doesn't seem to be enough.

Is it him or is it me? 90 percent of the time I think it's the man, but that's only a matter of perception. If you asked the man, he would say I was 90 percent of the problem. That's how we are. We never see what we're doing wrong. Not that I did anything wrong (smile), but when involved with someone, we have to see things from the other person's point of view to understand why they act or react to things a certain way.

Recently, someone dear to me said some things that made me take a look at our relationship. I wonder if this is a passing phase or will we continue to go back and forth with each other on issues that are really irrevelant to our daily lives, but yet is causing a rift between us.

This post may seem confusing, if it does, it's because I'm confused on what my next step should be. I'm weighing all options and if its meant for me to move on and jump off the "merry go round" while its spinning, then I will do that. If it's meant for me to hang on tight and ride it until the storm passes, then I will do that.

In the meantime, I'll listen to some Sade and reflect and try to decide on my next step.


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Wednesday, May 25, 2005

I don't know why when we're happy or sad, we sometimes reach for the chocolate. It's something about chocolate that gets the adrenaline going. Men know that a way to a woman's heart is with a box of chocolate.

When do you crave chocolate?


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Tuesday, May 24, 2005

TAG YOU'RE IT...
Princess Dominique tagged me so *voila* here is my top 10 list of things I love:

1. Writing - short stories, articles, novels, poetry, etc.
2. Reading (all genres except western)
3. Movies - action, drama, romance, suspense, horror, etc
4. Music - everything from pop, r & b, jazz, to country
5. TCBY French Vanilla Yogurt 6. Bath & Body Works shower gel, lotion, candles, etc.
7. ICEE (cherry, green apple...any flavor but coke)
8. Apple kisses
9. My two dogs - Napoleon and Rockafellor
10. My candy apple red mustang


And I'm Tagging:

Briosphere
Mrs. Mogul
Jus' Writin'
CocoaButterfly

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Monday, May 23, 2005

I'm a 35 year old woman with a lot to offer a man...

Victor Said...hmm...what did he have to say this week?
Essense Best Selling Author Victor McGlothin keeps dishing out good advice. Be sure to visit his website. Note: I saw Victor this past weekend and he's as frank and honest in person as he is in Victor Said...

Victor,

I'm a 35 year old woman with a lot to offer a man. My problem is when do I determine who's worthy of receiving me and who's not. I can't help being me because that's all I know how to be. My heart is big and my soul is giving. I've never had a man take advantage of that, but for some reason I can't find a man of my own. I have a terrible pattern of dating the same kind of man (those who are not ready to commit or already committed to someone else). It's funny because the famous words of every man I've ever been involved with is "your every mans dream" "your the perfect woman" or my all time favorite, "any man would be lucky to have a woman like you." Victor, if I'm so perfect then why is it that I can't find a man of my own.
Sincerely,
A love of my own

Victor Said...

A love of your own,
This question seems to resurface time and time again. However, I have addressed this in week two. But, what I will do is recap and offer a golden nugget to place underneath your pillow. It’s peculiar how so many sistahs view their single situations and the men who revolve through their love lives. I’ll say this again, if more women addressed marriage and life long ambitions regarding God, family and commitment before getting physically involved, more of them would have a “Mrs.” leading their names and the type of men they wanted standing behind them. Many women consider it a ridiculous plan of action to discuss marriage within the first two dates with a perspective mate. What’s ridiculous is wasting months, if not years, with great expectations of building a love that would last a life-time only to discover that the brotha was merely looking for great sex-pectations. Please don’t be foolish where your heart is concerned. “Ask a brotha,” up front if he is the marrying kind, what type of sistah he’d like to marry, and what events he feels most occur in his life before he’s ready to concentrate on ‘happily ever after, amen’. Once again, if he balks then bolts during the weeding out process, he is a weak one who still has some growing to do and you’ve just saved yourself quite a bit of prime-time (yours) without having to go through the motions dragging some unwilling knuckle-head along who’s only interested in playing house, not building one. Oh, and if you’re concerned about him running scared and into some other woman’s arms when marriage comes up, it’s far better that he rent space in her head than in yours.

And another thing, those flattering lines praising ‘how wonderful a sistah is’ before he dumps her, are nothing but excuses in transition as he moves along because he’s already humped and bumped, got the goods and gone.
Sistahs...

If you want to understand the complicated black man (like there is any other kind) or advice to help you get what you want from yours, ask Victor by sending an email message to Thewritebrother@hotmail.com. Submissions will be posted on the VictorMcGlothin.com web site.

Please note: Victor McGlothin is not a licensed psychologist, sex therapist, or marriage counselor and his responses are meant for entertainment purposes only.

All submissions should be limited to fifty words and have a short title i.e. "Confused in Chicago," "Freaky from Fountainhead," "Tired of the lies," "He might be crazy but I ain't," etc.

Responses to Victor said... may be edited and shortened for the sake of space. Don't forget to check in every Friday to see whatVictor said.. on http://www.victormcglothin.com/

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Sunday, May 22, 2005

In the last relationship poll "Why did you cheat?" none of the participants admitted to cheating. In fact, 67 percent of the people polled said they "Never thought about cheating."

If, this is true, then Ladies and gents, there's still hope. You just have to find the right one.

Another poll will be posted soon.


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Wednesday, May 18, 2005

Essence Magazine Best Sellers List - My Invisible Husband

It's been a few days since I posted. Since last week, I've received some GREAT news. I feel blessed and I thank God for it. MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND, my second novel, has been listed on the ESSENCE Magazine's Best Sellers list for the month of June.

I went through so many good emotions when I found out. I was checking email around one something Monday morning and clicked on the link to Essence's website: http://www.essence.com/essence/books.

I scrolled down and blinked my eyes several times because I thought I was dreaming. Remember it's one something in the morning and I might add I was sleepy but determined to check my email before going to bed.

Anyway, I let out a silent scream (still respectful for the other folks in the house)...got out the chair, did the "happy dance" and then proceeded to call my friend/author on the West Coast because I figured he would still be up due to the time zone difference. I didn't catch him on the phone, but he happened to be online so I chatted with him about it...also took time to meditate, because I'm a living testimony that God does answer prayers.

I'll stop rambling, but I'm still floating on a cloud.

My Invisible Husband tells the tale of one woman’s desperate attempt to stop the age-old question posed to all women at some point in their lives: So when are you getting married? How far would you go to please your family and friends?
34 year old Nicolette Montana fakes a Las Vegas wedding.Find out Nikki's story in
My Invisible Husband
.

It's currently on sale at
www.amazon.com
.



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Monday, May 16, 2005

MEN ARE LIKE...

A little humor to start your week off right...A friend sent this to me in email and I thought I would share. Men, if you're reading, please don't take it seriously :)

1. Men are like .......Laxatives .. They irritate the s_ _ t out of you.

2. Men are like ....... Bananas ..... The older they get, the less firm they are.

3. Men are like ....... Weather .... Nothing can be done to change them.

4 Men are like ....... Blenders .... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.

5. Men are like ...... Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.

6.. Men are like ....... Commercials ..... You can't believe a word they say.

7. Men are like ....... Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.

8. Men are like ....... Government Bonds ..... They take soooooooo long to mature.

9. Men are like ..... Mascara ..... They usually run at the first sign of emotion.

10. Men are like ....... Popcorn . ...... They satisfy you, but only for a little while

11. Men are like ..... Snowstorms ...... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.

12. Men are like ........ Lava Lamps ..... Fun to look at, but not very bright.

13. Men are like . Parking Spots ......... All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
--Anonymous

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Tuesday, May 10, 2005

This poll is closed...see post dated 5/22/05 for results.

Are you dating or are you married? Have you ever thought about creeping on your mate? If so, why? Take this week's poll. It's anonymous, so don't fear, you can be honest.

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Sunday, May 08, 2005

Victor Said...hmm...what did he have to say this week?
Essense Best Selling Author Victor McGlothin is back again this week. Be sure to visit his website.

Victor,

When a man cheats, is he unhappy with his wife, or himself? I always hear woman say that "his woman must not be keeping him satisfied." So, if I am keeping my man satisfied during his unemployment, is there anyone out there available to satisfy my 7 month old, my two year old, and my three year old while I am taking on the task of "raising" my husband's self image???? The service would need to be a free one, because we are on one income.
Thank you so kindly -

Love,
Tuck&RollBABY

Victor Said...

Tuck & Roll Baby,

My first thought after reading your message was, “Y’all need counseling!” Your situation is deeply intense and I do believe that’s a good start because there are three major issues to consider, yours, his and the family’s. Why do men cheat? Men have been known to step out on their wives for as many reasons as there are women (and more increasingly men) to facilitate it. There are certainly instances when a man’s self-esteem dips and takes his libido with it. Some of them seek sexual-gratification/ego-tripping in the arms of different women to revive it. On the other hand, men also experience displeasure with their wives on many fronts and feel disconnected, devastated, and damned. However, some men are quite simply dogs off the leash and interested in humping any female dog who’ll hold still long enough. Of course, neither of these is a worthy excuse or justified but you did ask. If this clears up the why, what will you do about it?


I’m certain that you’re exhausted during these extremely difficult times. Five people living on one income with a house and two car notes (presumably) would be enough to break any family without the tools to survive it but my plea is that you bend but refuse to break. There is a way to hold it together until the sun shines abundantly again. Believe me, it’s worth a shot at strengthening the family unit at its weakest point, which appears to be your husband’s ego. Next time, it could be yours or your health, loss of your job perhaps. To answer your last question… yes there is someone willing to offer the service of raising your husband’s self-image and it’s free of charge. Just ask. Pray on it until the answer is, "Yes. I'll fix it!
Sistahs...

If you want to understand the complicated black man (like there is any other kind) or advice to help you get what you want from yours, ask Victor by sending an email message to
Thewritebrother@hotmail.com. Submissions will be posted on the VictorMcGlothin.com web site.

Please note: Victor McGlothin is not a licensed psychologist, sex therapist, or marriage counselor and his responses are meant for entertainment purposes only.

All submissions should be limited to fifty words and have a short title i.e. "Confused in Chicago," "Freaky from Fountainhead," "Tired of the lies," "He might be crazy but I ain't," etc.

Responses to Victor said... may be edited and shortened for the sake of space. Don't forget to check in every Friday to see whatVictor said.. on
www.VictorMcGlothin.com

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Friday, May 06, 2005

Nikki's No Runaway Bride

MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND INTERVIEW WITH NIKKI MONTANA

Shelia Goss interviewed Nicolette Montana days before her trip to Las Vegas. Find out what this woman did "all in the name of love." Get the Exclusive interview here.


Shelia Goss: Please introduce yourself.
Nikki Montana: My name is Nicolette Montana but everyone
calls me Nikki. I am 34 years old and as far as everyone knows, I'm engaged.

Shelia: Congratulations. When is the big day?
Nikki: Soon. Very Soon.

Shelia: Will it be in Dallas?
Nikki: No. It'll be in Las Vegas. I can't wait to get away.

Shelia: What advice would you give other women who are in
their 30s and have never been married?
Nikki: If you find a man that you love and the feelings are reciprocated, go for it. Otherwise, don't let your age cause you to bow down to the pressure.

Shelia: Were you pressured?
Nikki: Uh. Well. No. I just felt the need to share that with your readers.

Shelia: Tell us something special about your relationship.
Nikki: Where do I begin? He's everything I've dreamed of.
He treats me like a queen and he's good eye-candy.

Shelia: If you could change anything about your relationship, what would it be?
Nikki: I wish he didn't travel as much.

Shelia: Do you think having a good sense of humor is important in a relationship?
Nikki: Yes. Very. Once we get married, he'll be away from home so much - I've already started calling him My Invisible Husband.

Shelia: LOL. Congrats again. Take plenty of pictures.
Nikki: I hope I don't lose the camera.

Shelia: I'm sure you won't.
Nikki: But you don't know me.

Remember the game charades? Nicolette(Nikki) Montana has taken the
game a step further. Get the scoop in My Invisible Husband...before anyone else does.

My Invisible Husband - A Story With a Twist


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Thursday, May 05, 2005

Some of you have emailed me and asked me about Nikki. Here's a short blurb about the book and Nikki (tomorrow, I'll post an interview).

My Invisible Husband tells the tale of one woman’s desperate attempt to stop the age-old question posed to all women at some point in their lives: So when are you getting married? It’s a question often posed to 34 year-old Nicolette Montana (Nikki). She wanders aimlessly from one dead-end relationship to another and now finds the dating game one big bore. To stop all the nagging by family and friends, she fakes a Las Vegas wedding.

On her return trip to Dallas, ironically, she meets the dashing and successful, Byron Matthews. Nikki becomes entangled in a web of deception when her family insists on meeting her mysterious husband at a family gathering. Byron comes to the rescue, not only to save a damsel in distress, but to have fun with her little charade.

What begins as a not-so-innocent prank, brings much more than Nikki and Byron ever expected.

Definitely a page turner, My Invisible Husband introduces its readers to the flip side of life and love. Filled with intrigue and suspense, My Invisible Husband possesses all the elements to make it a huge success. — Collier Lunn, Flavah Reviewers


Shelia Goss has written a warm, interesting and at times humorous story; one that women in their 30's should appreciate. The characters are flawed but believable and I really cared about what happened to them. This is a book that I really enjoyed and would recommend to others.
— Simone A. Hawks, Book-Remarks.com


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Tuesday, May 03, 2005

Nikki’s take on Jennifer Wilbanks – the Runaway Bride
Welcome to Nikki’s Corner.

If you read the book My Invisible Husband, then you already know who I am. For those of you who haven’t heard of me, my name is Nicolette Montana, but my friends call me Nikki. I sort of faked a Las Vegas wedding because I was tired of my family and friends in my business. This brings me to what I really stopped by to talk about.

What is up with Jennifer Wilbanks a/k/a the Runaway Bride? I thought I was the only one who had dibs on Las Vegas. I never would have thought that anyone would go to that extreme to not go through with a wedding. Well I’m sure there are people saying the same thing about me. I’ve heard it through the grapevine that some people don’t think me faking a Las Vegas wedding is realistic. But anyway, I’m not here to talk about me.

Jen, why didn’t you look me up when you were in Las Vegas? I would have talked you into calling your family. There’s no reason why you had to do that to them. Didn’t you know they would worry? John Mason is a good man. Because girl, I don’t know if I could forgive you. At least what I did didn’t hurt anyone. Well maybe a few pockets, because I did get some expensive wedding gifts, but it didn’t hurt their hearts. Next time you’re unsure of something, do what most people do…confront the issue head on. Believe me; I understand how family and friends can be annoying and how they can pressure you into doing things you wouldn’t normally do. But take it from me, in the end; it’s not even worth it.

Next time, be strong and don’t bow down to the pressure. Do as I say, not as I do. :)

Signed,
Ms. Nicolette “Nikki” Montana

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Monday, May 02, 2005

REWARD - It's All About You
***Passed to me, so I'm passing to you.
Reward. Give yourself something that makes you smile. A banana split with all the toppings, an afternoon doing absolutely nothing. Reward yourself for a job well done. Reward yourself for getting through a terrible ordeal. Take a dollar or five or fifty and reward yourself for being wonderful, for being phenomenal, for finishing what you started. Reward yourself for being the best mother, the best friend, the best sister, the best aunt, the best you. Better yet, reward yourself for nothing in particular, for just being you. Reward yourself for letting the house go without cleaning, for letting the wash sit an extra day. Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers at the supermarket or, better yet, send flowers to yourself. Remember to write a lovely note and sign it
Me.

Have a rewarding week, unless of course, you have other plans!

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Sunday, May 01, 2005



What could be more COMPLICATED than MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND? R & B Singer Nivea is sponsoring MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND author Shelia Goss' May contest.
Entering is not COMPLICATED. Send your name, address, and email address to nivea_shelia@yahoo.com and put CONTEST in the header and you will automatically be entered to win one(1) of the six(6) prizes (CD sampler and Nivea personalized manicure set).
Nivea's CD COMPLICATED and Shelia Goss' MY INVISIBLE HUSBAND are on sale at Amazon.com. COMPLICATED will be in stores on May 3rd.
No purchase is necessary to win. All entries must be received by midnight May 31, 2005.
Void where prohibited by law.
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