As I read the newspaper and watched the news this past weekend, I was astonished at some of the things we do "all in the name of love." Since the allegations against this Spanish Talk Show Host are said to be false, I won't mention her name here, but she admitted that she didn't use her best judgment because during this "alleged" period, she was in love with someone of not so good character.
Have you ever been involved with someone and you allowed them to control your actions/reactions? How many times have you cut off family or friends, because of the new person you're dating? If that person you're dating can't understand you had a life before them, then he or she is the wrong person.
Earlier today, I was listening to some old CDs, one being Janet Jackson's "Control" CD. It made me think about how we sometimes give up control of our lives to others without thinking. "Control" is a liberating song. It's about taking back control of your life. Whether it be quitting and starting a new job, or stop allowing people to dictate our lives, some form of control is needed.
If you're single, don't allow OTHERS to control what you do with your time. So what if you're not married. Apparently, you haven't met the right person yet. Or if you are dating someone, it might not be the right time. But regardless, don't allow others to CONTROL the outcome of your life. In the end, you'll be the one who has to suffer the consequences.
If you're married, don't allow OTHERS to control what goes on in your marriage. You know your mate better than anyone else (well let's hope...smile). When you get upset and complain to relatives or friends, be aware that they will give their opinions. But also keep in mind that when you make up with your mate, those same relatives and friends may still harp on the issue you discussed with them. Try to resolve your issues with your mate yourself when at all possible. Too many opinions, can lead to more problems.
You are in control of your own emotions. Don't give up that power. We as women, sometimes give up control too easily; especially in new relationships or potential relationships. There is no reason why you should be out of control wondering if a man loves you or not. His actions should show that.
One thing I've learned over the years, a person can only do to you what you allow them to do.
If you want to stop being the victim to a family member, friend, or your man, then you will have to take control. Initially, there may be some pain involved, but in the end, you'll be free and happier.
So, this week, take some CONTROL over your life.